This past weekend I was lucky enough to be invited to speak at the @injafit women's retreat. Interestingly enough, someone at the retreat asked me if my daughters had ever heard me speak. I smiled and with a small laugh responded- no, but they hear it all the time because I'm constantly trying to teach them- whether it be through my actions or through story.
While I was away I received an email that I knew would bring complete disappointment to my oldest daughter. In the grand scheme of life it's not that big of a deal, but children typically don't think in "bigger picture" terms. I truly wish more role models and leaders would take note.
Anyway, my thoughts started racing on how I was going to explain this email in a logical way that would not bring down her spirit or disrupt her work ethic both in sports and in school. In my anxious mind I text my husband about the situation and like most men, he removed emotion & downplayed it. Which in all honesty, that can be a good balancing act for someone that deals with other people's emotions on a daily basis. As a coach, I have to not only be able to help people work through their emotions...I have to then teach them how to learn from them and ultimately grow into a better person.
Yesterday, I decided it was time to tell my daughter the news. My heart was racing, but in my calmest demeanor I told her I had something I needed to talk to her about. I went on for a few minutes explaining that it wasn't a big deal and so on. But before I got too deep she looked at me and said- I know what this is about, mom. I saw the texts to dad. Yes, it hurt me. I even cried and for awhile, I was really sad. But then I thought about the stories you tell me and the one about Michael Jordan and not giving up...and I felt better.
This is the kind of moment I lay in bed at night and think about. My daughter had a choice to give up or keep going and on her own, without any parental guidance, she made the choice to keep going.
I would much rather her be the girl that got knocked down and chose to get back up...I want that for all of my girls.
We don't grow by sitting in the stands watching...we grow by choosing to be in the arena.